S3E1 - Psycho Love

0:01 What up, guys, is your girl? Ladies finger And we are back with season three of Gems and Tonic. I mean, we could have inserted some effects, but you know, we keep it real for the people. That's us just you know, rooting ourselves on. We are so excited for this season. We come with the laughs, the jokes, all the good stuff that y'all love from us so so so much. And of course you can check out our socials for the outtakes and you know, the little stupid videos that we do and the entertaining videos that we do and the educational videos. Okay, we do a lot, all right. So season opener, while we're starting weird, the topic is if your girl doesn't go a little psychle on you, then she doesn't love you. Fact or fuckery fuckery straight fuckery okay, and you're a boy with the big swing. I mean I tend to agree that that is not that is a fact that she should be a little psycho. That if she does not go a little psycho on you from time to time, she doesn't love you. What a doul't needs to go crazy to show them show somebody their emotions. It's it's because I care.

1:34 If I didn't care, things wouldn't bother me. So you go to cycle as opposed to just show them that emotion or having a conversation about that. Well, you know, we all show our emotions differently, and sometimes I gotta love you at psycho level. So what do you consider psycho? A little yelling, a little screaming, a little simmon at the doors, walking away? You know that that kind of I'm not gonna say that cycle. What do you consider cycle pulling out weapons and might happen? Why would I threaten you? I wouldn't threaten you. You think that's what psycho is.

2:21 I'm going with that. Cycle is like if you show a motion, and yes, that's what you should do because you can tell that the person cares. But cycle, Okay, So we need to first define cycle, right, And I think across cultures cycle is different because Jamaicans always pull a knife or fork, a machiette or something. That's normal. We do that every day, We do that on a daily basis. We do that with our kids. So if I pull a small machete on you, you should not take that as overly cycle. You should take that as she cares. Okay. So then if I pull out a gun this knife fight that you too far, too far, Like I'm bringing a gun to the knife and no culture is pulling a gun showing love. Oh, I'm showing you some love like I love me, I love living. So you threatening me with that knife? Oh, I'm going to kill you? Oh? Is that what it is? But you know that I'm only acting up because I care you're and you're going to kill me for that? Well, you don't know where it's gonna end. Like, I'm just gonna show you this knife, like who threatened somebody and you with this knife? Who in a loving relationship will say with a knife, which is a giant knife that. Uh So

3:55 if you don't do what I say or conform to what I need you to conform to, I'm gonna hit you with this. Now, when I hit you with this, what if I slip up because you're thinking I'm gonna just smack you with it with flat side on the backside. What if I move and you twitch and that that sharp end, the business end of the stick gets to smack me. We're professionals, We've been doing this for years. We know how to plan you. Yeah, but see now, if you don't know how to take plant as that's your and then now that's what the problem is, like you sitting there, Oh, it's my culture. I can do this, but somebody that don't understand that culture. I'm trying to get away from that machete, and then trying to get away from that machete while you're trying to plant us, you're gonna sit here and cut eyes.

4:50 So I'm trying to be okay with that. It's just love. That's not love. Love don't make you believe I can't see now again. So that's to me, that cycle, anything that has to do with the weapon and threatening, even if you're talking about, oh, well you know it's part of my culture. No if just because it's part of your culture doesn't make it right. Like I'm just gonna bust out of machete. I'm gonna bust out of machete, and then you're gonna accept the fact that I'm just playing with you. Nah, bro, you bust out a machete, bust out your eyes. Interesting, violence, Yes, violence begets violence. And I'm not gonna say like she just playing, Oh go ahead, can't smack hoss.

5:43 No, oh, she's gonna pull out a weapon. Okay, then you go with the defense mode. So I can't see psychotic being. Uh, somebody's showing love. What about pelting something at your head? What if I threw something at your head? What is the something? Now? If there's something weighs more than a pound, no, I don't think and a pound is questionable. But if something weighs more than a pound, then again danger, danger will Robinson if it hits you in the eye, takes the eye out. All funny games when somebody get that eye PopEd out. I'm sure you heard that cross culture. Okay, So as long as it's less than a pound, I could throw it at your head. No, you can throw it. I'm not because I could. That's it's less than a pound, because I love you. And what's funny. We were younger, we played darts and say he stuck my sister in the nose, and he loves his sister, but that was it was like it scared me. So I'm not throwing no dark out of love. So damn it. He messed up and took darts off the table, all right. So anything that's not sharp under her under a pound, I can do that you can throw and

7:14 it's not considered cycle. It's just overly emotional. It's overly emotional. It might get the overreaction back and you have to accept that because you went overboard. So but do you receive the love? Do you at that moment? No? I don't think you like you don't see that well, to be honest, you can see that emotion being portrayed as the love. So I can see the love in that emotion. Like you, you're so frustrated that you throw something at a person. I can see that I sent a butt.

7:59 There's no butt. I can see that. But when this butt has nothing to do with that, like, that's a that's a period. But anything other than that, what about breaking out your call windows? I don't know anything that's gonna cost money, it's not okay, that's that's way overboard. What about hiding your video games? I mean, it's no real harm in in that. It's not threatening. It's not like you threw them away. You just hit them, Like, okay, you're doing it too much, all right, I can understand it, you know, I won't feel a way about it until two three hours later when you're still hiding them and I want to find them. But again, I can see that emotion being like I love. It's not anything other than that emotion getting so bundled up that like you got to take it out somewhere, and that's where you chose to take it out. Okay, So do you think guys like do this at times, like go cycle on their girls in some way, shape or form to show love or do you think that is strictly something that women do.

9:26 I don't think it's necessarily show love. I think it's showing it more their dominance. Like anytime you're doing that's like I own you type of thing. It's not I love you so much that I'm gonna say here and choke you out. See. So why is there a double standard? Why is it that you know, if a woman goes cycle, she loves you, but if a guy goes cycle, he's trying to dominate you. And I want to say that I'm not saying that it's a double standing. I'm just saying that I can't see a guy being so in love and thinking that me choking you out is showing that love. I didn't say choking out. Why you went to choking out? Because that the violence is cycle. That's that's what you go to, you go to violence is being cycle? What if a guy puts pepper in your underwear? How about that? Where are you coming up with that? This this is my culture things that they do, and somebody puts pepper in hm hmm pepper your drawers? No, that cycle?

10:33 How can that cycle? Like? Now? Is that cycle? That that's painful? I'm sure I can't imagine having pepper mm hmmm. His face, y'all, he looks so confused. I don't know. That's like, what can I go? He loved me? No? You can't you love me? You're like, oh, I need to get out of here. No, no, man, unless that man likes like spicy Cucci free throws. I can't see a sign of love. Like, nah, okay, what else? What else? What can a guy do? That is not cycle? But borderline cycle is you'd like to call it an acceptable overly emotional and it be cool, like it not be him trying to control you.

11:28 I don't know. I guess it would have to be. It would have to go with the situation like what if he throws stuff? What if you start throwing things and breaking There's no throwing of anything. You said under but it's different, Like for a man to be that emotional, it seems like it would go a lot further than just me throwing something like you can't see that. A man is just gonna be like, Okay, I'm just throw this here teddy bear at you because I'm mad and I love you, though, Like it is like I can't see the correlation between the two is like, well a teddy bear, Yeah, all right, Like I bought this for you and I love you so much and you didn't appreciate it, and I throw it at you. Okay, I can see that. But let's say you had a teddy bear and y'all were arguing about something else, like you hit his video game, and now he wants to bush it upside the head with this teddy bear. That active aggression is not love. That's like, that's that's on that I want to get. I want to choke you, but I don't want to go to jail because I can't deal with consequences of going to jail. So I'm gonna hit you with this here teddy bear.

12:54 So then do I go? He doesn't love me, he wants to hit me, I should run. You should definitely run. Really, yes, any man that can can get to the point where they gotta put hands on a woman. You didn't you put a teddy bear on me. I'm quite sure that he wanted to put more than the teddy bear, but he thought better. Like, I know, if I put my hands on her, there's gonna be consequences to this. But if I hit it with the teddy bear, she's gonna be like, ha ha, that was cute. He loves me. He didn't really choke me out. It could be a you know, it could be misconstrued. And with guys like I don't want to do no jail time. I can't sit in the book, so I'm not going to put my hands on her. But I'm gon hit it with this teddy bear and hope this eyeball, this marble eyeball, hits her and gives her a Nott reminds her that she took my video games, and I'm upset. Very interesting, and I just want to refer y'all back to h Actually, no disregard. I'll hold that one disregard. I'm gonna keep that.

14:07 I'm gonna keep that for myself. And yeah, so women can go a little psycho and it be taken as love. Men cannot do the same because it will be taken as an active aggression and you should run. That is where were we are with it. That's where you're at with it, all right. So when I throw something at you a week from now, I just want you to recall that you said the parameters were as long as it doesn't cost money, as long as it's less than a pound, and preferably don't aim for your head, and you'll know that I love you. No, I didn't say I would, because I don't. I don't see that as love. Mm So I can't go psycho, not ever, ever, ever. I mean, because you're a grown woman that you can have a conversation and use your words. You don't need to use any objects.

15:13 What if I so kicking, screaming, yelling, it's not cycle. I could go off that way. It's it's not psycho. It's very emotional, but it's not cycle. That's acceptable. It's not acceptable. Still again, you're a grown woman. You shouldn't be doing it. But it's a lot more acceptable than you throwing something in trying to hurt somebody. But you caused this. You you drove me to this point. No, you didn't. You got in the car by yourself and got to that point. You got driven. You drove yourself to that point. You allowed yourself to be driven to that point. You let you know, miss Daisy get driven. I didn't do it. Accountability, Oh my gosh, y'all y'all be taking women to these points and then want to be like, doesn't that me as you get join your emotions, your psycho and y'all quick to go on somebody crazy real quick. You're crazy? You're crazy? Yeah, And then you can have a conversation about it. You can talk about well, I'm not crazy because you know you can again words because the sticks in the stones they hurt you. The words won't. Words hurt more than sticks and stones. That's what y'all need to understand. They stay with you. We don't forget them.

16:33 They stings. Y y'all give words more meaning than they need to have. I we're gonna wrap this one up because he says the psycho does not mean that she loves you, and that's what he's standing on. I mean, you think the cycle means she loves you. I think it means she cares. I don't know. Yeah, you wouldn't Clearly you have standards. Clearly you don't know about that gettle love not at all. You want that bougie talk, talk to me through through the attorney. If it gets to that point, Love, ye's a get out. Go figure your life out and then come back maybe later. Love, Okay, all right, And on that note, go keep living life and laughing at it until next time.