S3E1 - Psycho Love

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What up, guys, is your
girl? Ladies finger And we are back

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with season three of Gems and Tonic. I mean, we could have inserted

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some effects, but you know,
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Okay, we do a lot,
all right. So season opener,

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while we're starting weird, the topic
is if your girl doesn't go a little

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psychle on you, then she doesn't
love you. Fact or fuckery fuckery straight

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fuckery okay, and you're a boy
with the big swing. I mean I

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tend to agree that that is not
that is a fact that she should be

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a little psycho. That if she
does not go a little psycho on you

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from time to time, she doesn't
love you. What a doul't needs to

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go crazy to show them show somebody
their emotions. It's it's because I care.

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If I didn't care, things wouldn't
bother me. So you go to

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cycle as opposed to just show them
that emotion or having a conversation about that.

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Well, you know, we all
show our emotions differently, and sometimes

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I gotta love you at psycho level. So what do you consider psycho?

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A little yelling, a little screaming, a little simmon at the doors,

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walking away? You know that that
kind of I'm not gonna say that cycle.

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What do you consider cycle pulling out
weapons and might happen? Why would

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I threaten you? I wouldn't threaten
you. You think that's what psycho is.

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I'm going with that. Cycle is
like if you show a motion,

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and yes, that's what you should
do because you can tell that the person

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cares. But cycle, Okay,
So we need to first define cycle,

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right, And I think across cultures
cycle is different because Jamaicans always pull a

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knife or fork, a machiette or
something. That's normal. We do that

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every day, We do that on
a daily basis. We do that with

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our kids. So if I pull
a small machete on you, you should

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not take that as overly cycle.
You should take that as she cares.

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Okay. So then if I pull
out a gun this knife fight that you

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too far, too far, Like
I'm bringing a gun to the knife and

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no culture is pulling a gun showing
love. Oh, I'm showing you some

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love like I love me, I
love living. So you threatening me with

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that knife? Oh, I'm going
to kill you? Oh? Is that

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what it is? But you know
that I'm only acting up because I care

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you're and you're going to kill me
for that? Well, you don't know

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where it's gonna end. Like,
I'm just gonna show you this knife,

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like who threatened somebody and you with
this knife? Who in a loving relationship

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will say with a knife, which
is a giant knife that. Uh So

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if you don't do what I say
or conform to what I need you to

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conform to, I'm gonna hit you
with this. Now, when I hit

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you with this, what if I
slip up because you're thinking I'm gonna just

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smack you with it with flat side
on the backside. What if I move

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and you twitch and that that sharp
end, the business end of the stick

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gets to smack me. We're professionals, We've been doing this for years.

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We know how to plan you.
Yeah, but see now, if you

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don't know how to take plant as
that's your and then now that's what the

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problem is, like you sitting there, Oh, it's my culture. I

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can do this, but somebody that
don't understand that culture. I'm trying to

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get away from that machete, and
then trying to get away from that machete

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while you're trying to plant us,
you're gonna sit here and cut eyes.

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So I'm trying to be okay with
that. It's just love. That's not

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love. Love don't make you believe
I can't see now again. So that's

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to me, that cycle, anything
that has to do with the weapon and

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threatening, even if you're talking about, oh, well you know it's part

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of my culture. No if just
because it's part of your culture doesn't make

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it right. Like I'm just gonna
bust out of machete. I'm gonna bust

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out of machete, and then you're
gonna accept the fact that I'm just playing

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with you. Nah, bro,
you bust out a machete, bust out

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your eyes. Interesting, violence,
Yes, violence begets violence. And I'm

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not gonna say like she just playing, Oh go ahead, can't smack hoss.

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No, oh, she's gonna pull
out a weapon. Okay, then

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you go with the defense mode.
So I can't see psychotic being. Uh,

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somebody's showing love. What about pelting
something at your head? What if

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I threw something at your head?
What is the something? Now? If

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there's something weighs more than a pound, no, I don't think and a

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pound is questionable. But if something
weighs more than a pound, then again

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danger, danger will Robinson if it
hits you in the eye, takes the

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eye out. All funny games when
somebody get that eye PopEd out. I'm

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sure you heard that cross culture.
Okay, So as long as it's less

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than a pound, I could throw
it at your head. No, you

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can throw it. I'm not because
I could. That's it's less than a

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pound, because I love you.
And what's funny. We were younger,

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we played darts and say he stuck
my sister in the nose, and he

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loves his sister, but that was
it was like it scared me. So

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I'm not throwing no dark out of
love. So damn it. He messed

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up and took darts off the table, all right. So anything that's not

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sharp under her under a pound,
I can do that you can throw and

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it's not considered cycle. It's just
overly emotional. It's overly emotional. It

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might get the overreaction back and you
have to accept that because you went overboard.

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So but do you receive the love? Do you at that moment?

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No? I don't think you like
you don't see that well, to be

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honest, you can see that emotion
being portrayed as the love. So I

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can see the love in that emotion. Like you, you're so frustrated that

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you throw something at a person.
I can see that I sent a butt.

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There's no butt. I can see
that. But when this butt has

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nothing to do with that, like, that's a that's a period. But

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anything other than that, what about
breaking out your call windows? I don't

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know anything that's gonna cost money,
it's not okay, that's that's way overboard.

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What about hiding your video games?
I mean, it's no real harm

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in in that. It's not threatening. It's not like you threw them away.

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You just hit them, Like,
okay, you're doing it too much,

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all right, I can understand it, you know, I won't feel

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a way about it until two three
hours later when you're still hiding them and

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I want to find them. But
again, I can see that emotion being

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like I love. It's not anything
other than that emotion getting so bundled up

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that like you got to take it
out somewhere, and that's where you chose

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to take it out. Okay,
So do you think guys like do this

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at times, like go cycle on
their girls in some way, shape or

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form to show love or do you
think that is strictly something that women do.

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I don't think it's necessarily show love. I think it's showing it more

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their dominance. Like anytime you're doing
that's like I own you type of thing.

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It's not I love you so much
that I'm gonna say here and choke

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you out. See. So why
is there a double standard? Why is

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it that you know, if a
woman goes cycle, she loves you,

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but if a guy goes cycle,
he's trying to dominate you. And I

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want to say that I'm not saying
that it's a double standing. I'm just

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saying that I can't see a guy
being so in love and thinking that me

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choking you out is showing that love. I didn't say choking out. Why

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you went to choking out? Because
that the violence is cycle. That's that's

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what you go to, you go
to violence is being cycle? What if

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a guy puts pepper in your underwear? How about that? Where are you

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coming up with that? This this
is my culture things that they do,

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and somebody puts pepper in hm hmm
pepper your drawers? No, that cycle?

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How can that cycle? Like?
Now? Is that cycle? That

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that's painful? I'm sure I can't
imagine having pepper mm hmmm. His face,

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y'all, he looks so confused.
I don't know. That's like,

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what can I go? He loved
me? No? You can't you love

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me? You're like, oh,
I need to get out of here.

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No, no, man, unless
that man likes like spicy Cucci free throws.

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I can't see a sign of love. Like, nah, okay,

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what else? What else? What
can a guy do? That is not

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cycle? But borderline cycle is you'd
like to call it an acceptable overly emotional

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and it be cool, like it
not be him trying to control you.

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I don't know. I guess it
would have to be. It would have

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to go with the situation like what
if he throws stuff? What if you

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start throwing things and breaking There's no
throwing of anything. You said under but

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it's different, Like for a man
to be that emotional, it seems like

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it would go a lot further than
just me throwing something like you can't see

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that. A man is just gonna
be like, Okay, I'm just throw

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this here teddy bear at you because
I'm mad and I love you, though,

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Like it is like I can't see
the correlation between the two is like,

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well a teddy bear, Yeah,
all right, Like I bought this

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for you and I love you so
much and you didn't appreciate it, and

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I throw it at you. Okay, I can see that. But let's

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say you had a teddy bear and
y'all were arguing about something else, like

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you hit his video game, and
now he wants to bush it upside the

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head with this teddy bear. That
active aggression is not love. That's like,

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that's that's on that I want to
get. I want to choke you,

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but I don't want to go to
jail because I can't deal with consequences

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of going to jail. So I'm
gonna hit you with this here teddy bear.

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So then do I go? He
doesn't love me, he wants to

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hit me, I should run.
You should definitely run. Really, yes,

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any man that can can get to
the point where they gotta put hands

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on a woman. You didn't you
put a teddy bear on me. I'm

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quite sure that he wanted to put
more than the teddy bear, but he

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thought better. Like, I know, if I put my hands on her,

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there's gonna be consequences to this.
But if I hit it with the

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teddy bear, she's gonna be like, ha ha, that was cute.

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He loves me. He didn't really
choke me out. It could be a

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you know, it could be misconstrued. And with guys like I don't want

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to do no jail time. I
can't sit in the book, so I'm

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not going to put my hands on
her. But I'm gon hit it with

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this teddy bear and hope this eyeball, this marble eyeball, hits her and

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gives her a Nott reminds her that
she took my video games, and I'm

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upset. Very interesting, and I
just want to refer y'all back to h

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Actually, no disregard. I'll hold
that one disregard. I'm gonna keep that.

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I'm gonna keep that for myself.
And yeah, so women can go

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a little psycho and it be taken
as love. Men cannot do the same

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because it will be taken as an
active aggression and you should run. That

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is where were we are with it. That's where you're at with it,

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all right. So when I throw
something at you a week from now,

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I just want you to recall that
you said the parameters were as long as

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it doesn't cost money, as long
as it's less than a pound, and

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preferably don't aim for your head,
and you'll know that I love you.

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No, I didn't say I would, because I don't. I don't see

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that as love. Mm So I
can't go psycho, not ever, ever,

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ever. I mean, because you're
a grown woman that you can have

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a conversation and use your words.
You don't need to use any objects.

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What if I so kicking, screaming, yelling, it's not cycle. I

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could go off that way. It's
it's not psycho. It's very emotional,

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but it's not cycle. That's acceptable. It's not acceptable. Still again,

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you're a grown woman. You shouldn't
be doing it. But it's a lot

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more acceptable than you throwing something in
trying to hurt somebody. But you caused

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this. You you drove me to
this point. No, you didn't.

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You got in the car by yourself
and got to that point. You got

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driven. You drove yourself to that
point. You allowed yourself to be driven

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to that point. You let you
know, miss Daisy get driven. I

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didn't do it. Accountability, Oh
my gosh, y'all y'all be taking women

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to these points and then want to
be like, doesn't that me as you

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get join your emotions, your psycho
and y'all quick to go on somebody crazy

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real quick. You're crazy? You're
crazy? Yeah, And then you can

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have a conversation about it. You
can talk about well, I'm not crazy

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because you know you can again words
because the sticks in the stones they hurt

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you. The words won't. Words
hurt more than sticks and stones. That's

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what y'all need to understand. They
stay with you. We don't forget them.

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They stings. Y y'all give words
more meaning than they need to have.

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I we're gonna wrap this one up
because he says the psycho does not

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mean that she loves you, and
that's what he's standing on. I mean,

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you think the cycle means she loves
you. I think it means she

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cares. I don't know. Yeah, you wouldn't Clearly you have standards.

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Clearly you don't know about that gettle
love not at all. You want that

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bougie talk, talk to me through
through the attorney. If it gets to

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that point, Love, ye's a
get out. Go figure your life out

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and then come back maybe later.
Love, Okay, all right, And

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on that note, go keep living
life and laughing at it until next time.