S3E5 - My Buddy and Me... Only

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What up? What up? What
up? Is your girl? Ladyes Stinger.

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I went back with another episode of
Gems and Tonic. Tonight. We

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are talking about Instagram posts that your
girls saw and brought to your boy to

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see how you felt about it.
And the post read my man is not

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your friend. He has two friends, me and Macucci. Oh what you

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say? What do you think about
that? I think that's fuckery? Here

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we go. Why what more do
you need in life besides me and this

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good kiddy cat. First of all, this is first one too much,

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the other once too much time,
So you need time? Wait wait wait,

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wait wait wait one talks too much, and yeah, we need to

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know which is which, which one
needs to die. I'm just saying,

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let the people know. But that
that makes no sense. Like, so

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I can't do anything but be under
you, be around you, nothing outside

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of that. Yeah, I don't
think that's what they meant. So what

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do you think they meant? Shorty? He not your little friend? At

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best, you an associate. He
has his friends, Me myself. I

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we're good, y'all. Y'all work
colleagues, work associates. I don't I

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don't think that you might be a
friend of his male friends. I don't

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know that's superficial, like that's on
the surface. Like you y'all could be

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anything but friends. Yeah you can. You can name it any other thing,

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but you're not friends. It doesn't
sound like you're saying that you can't

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have anybody else in your life except
for me because that's all you need.

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I mean, I feel like that. I feel like I'm on you need.

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But I'm now you know you don't
think that, and I'm all that

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in the mag that's why your neck
hurt from trying to hold that big ass

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head up. Somebody told you my
next hurt. My neck feels just fine.

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My neck can handle all the weight
that's put on it. Okay,

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but that's to me. That's what
that I'm getting from that, I'm not

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getting You can be uh an associate, but you can't be his friend.

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That's that's strictly for me. You
gotta keep your friend's circle small. Your

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mother never told you that keep your
friend circle small? Yeah, not everybody

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is your friend. Well I know, not everybody's your friend, but so

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what is small? How many?
How many people? I don't know,

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I'm not sure who's like? You
know? Who do you consider close friends.

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Friends are people that can come to
your home. Can you know those

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are friends? Everybody else is an
associate. If I don't allow you in

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my house, you're not my friend. But if that's the case, from

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what that that post is saying none
of these girls is allowed in the house.

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Keep your girls out the house?
What girls though? Like just regular

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girls? What do you mean?
Who are these girls that you're telling that

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you can't be friends and can't be
in that house? Like you saying keep

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your friends circle small? But like, so who's that include? Like it

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doesn't include people that I've known and
been friends with or people I've met and

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become friends with. I don't know. I didn't post. Well what do

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you think? Because you obviously got
to make a determination on what it means

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to you. Yeah, the little
lightweights that want to be your friends.

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Now, you have a best friend
from childhood that is you know, a

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woman that's different. So what if
she's including that person then? Or what

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if it's directed at that person?
M why would it be directed at that

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person? Were you all involved?
No? Because she feels a way like

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I don't know why she put the
post. She could have put it because

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she's a jealous person and like,
you can't have any female friends. I'm

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your only female friend. Some guys
are okay with that, there fool.

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Some people believe that, you know, the person you're with should be your

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homy lover friend, everything you need
and that's it. Some people rock with

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that, you leave us. On
the other hand, you know, king

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flirt, I can't see, of
course you can't. You being like,

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oh, well, this is the
person and I can't have friends outside of

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that, Like how do how do
you navigate society with that mindset? Like

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I'm just going to be straightforward.
I can't talk to you. I'm in

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a relationship. We can't be friends. We can't talk. Keep moving and

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say we can't talk. She ain't
say y'all can't talk. She said,

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y'all can't be friends. But when
you have these conversations and then you start

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finding out, then you become friendly, not necessarily friends, which is going

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towards the friend zone. Cut it
off before the friend zone, stop it

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friendly, is what she's saying.
You know, I need nothing more.

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No, that's a selfish attitude to
me, Like you're gonna tell me like

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I can't have female friends, so
a male friend, No, she said

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friends. She ain't say female.
She ain't say male. She said friends.

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She probably talking about everybody. So
you want me to just be about

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you, and you think that's gonna
last. It might work in her world,

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I don't know. Clearly, it's
not gonna work in yours. Clearly

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it's not gonna work in mine.
You're telling me, Oh yeah, it's

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just it's just me and you.
You don't think you're gonna grow tired of

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that, Like, no matter how
cool y'all relationship is, you don't think

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that it's gonna start. Okay,
now it's getting a bit much. Now

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I need I need something outside.
Like that's like when you get on the

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game. You have a baby game, when you have a baby and you're

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talking baby talk, and that's all
you're doing for the first six seven months

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of this baby's life, and all
of a sudden, now an adult comes.

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Now you want to have a regular
conversation. It's hard to have that

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regal conversation because all you know is
God got Google and you you know what

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I mean. Like, so now
my only friend can be the baby because

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that's all I understand is baby talk. No, you get tired of that.

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Not the baby, But you know, like you want to have adult

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conversations, you want to have other
conversations. If I'm living with you and

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we're just it's all about me and
you, there's nothing else to talk about,

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Like we were done, Uh,
exhausted, exhausted all our conversations because

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it's all about me and you.
I don't have nothing to tell you because

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I don't talk to anybody else,
so I can't tell you what this one

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said or what that one did.
So then where do we go? What

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do we have these conversations about?
Well, once you finished talking to me,

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you talk to my cat because one
of them clearly talks too much,

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and we ain't figure out which one
yet, so they always got something to

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say. I'm just saying you said
sounds like, are you the one that's

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out of words? Not me?
No, I'm not out of words,

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like I got a lot of words
for you, the choice words too,

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because cocoa PUFs. But even even
with those two conversations, eventually that gets

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tired, like your joke inside of
talking the same talk. You know,

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why you look so frustrated, why
you look like your blood pressure just went

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out? Laughing at you? Blood
pressure coming up I'm trying nothing to forget.

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This is hilarious to me that you
said that. Okay, I'm just

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saying, you know, I'm giving
you options. We all need options.

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That's two conversations and no, two
conversations won't last for fifteen minutes. How

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about that? Fifteen minutes? Yes? Ten in the verbal five one other

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one? Okay, all right,
So bottom line, you think she's ridiculous.

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You need other adult contact in your
life, yes, and not only

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just for you before your relationship to
work, because your relationship is going to

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fail if you don't have other things
to draw on, right, If you

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don't have an outlet then you know, or something else to stimulate your mind

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or just to be able to be
like you know what, I need to

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do something different, you know,
varietes and spice of life. Then you

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end up starting to get into this
this one Dane. Monotonous right, monotonous?

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Uh? What's I can't think of
the word I want to use?

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Mm hmm. That's that's you know
why. That's because you've only been having

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conversations with me and my cat,
so you your vocabulary. This is what

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happens. I mean, this is
a perfect example. This is you again.

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So now we know which one talks
too much, We know which one

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talks too much, and really you
are talking way too much. I'm just

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saying, I'm proving you right.
Your point right, Your point is being

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proven right. Yeah, one point
is that sometimes you need to shut up

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have a different conversation with somebody else
because the fuggery is coming out of your

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mouth. Okay, you're right.
Yeah, I think I think that answers

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that. Oh no, but what
do you feel? Oh you wanted how

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I feel? Do you feel like
that's a true statement that you don't know?

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No, I think you should have
friends if that was addressed, you

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know, specifically towards the little chicks
that may be trying to get in.

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Yeah, then I agree, he
don't need y'all. He got he got

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me and my cat. We're good. But I don't think that extends to

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real friends, right like your true
friends, who you rock with, who

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know your business, who you put
your trust in, who you rely on.

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Those type of friends. I think
if we're talking, you know,

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the little I don't even know what
to call them. If we're talking,

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the wanna bees, the want to
get ins, the if I get two

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seconds, something other than a friendship
than a genuine, you know, friendship,

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those trying to get your draws.
He don't need y'all that. If

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that's where she's throwing it, I'm
right there with her. That's it.

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Well, I mean, if it's
if it's not broad and it is directed

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towards something like that, it doesn't
seem as psychotic. But if it is,

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like like now you can't have no
friends, right, that's that's controlling

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and right. And what's the people
who what's the term I'm looking for the

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people who separate you from from your
loved ones, the abusive people. I

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guess they're mentally abusing you. They
cut you off from your people and then

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you know, make you dependent on
them. If it's along those lines,

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yeah, too much. But you
know I didn't take it like that,

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but clearly you did. Well,
how did you take it? You taking

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it as I'm taking it as now, I'm taking it as she directing it

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towards the ones that's trying to get
in where they fit in. I took

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it as that. I took it
as she's just saying, she putting like

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she putting her little flag out,
she puts it on her tree. You

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the tree I'm not the tree.
She's pistol on her tree. She's marking

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her territory. I just want to
know, because you know, cats climb

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trees. Oh my god. So
with that, we're gonna keep living life

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from laughing at it. Clearly,
that's the end of this episode. Guys.

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We'll catch you on the next one
later