S3E5 - My Buddy and Me... Only

0:00 What up? What up? What up? Is your girl? Ladyes Stinger. I went back with another episode of Gems and Tonic. Tonight. We are talking about Instagram posts that your girls saw and brought to your boy to see how you felt about it. And the post read my man is not your friend. He has two friends, me and Macucci. Oh what you say? What do you think about that? I think that's fuckery? Here we go. Why what more do you need in life besides me and this good kiddy cat. First of all, this is first one too much, the other once too much time, So you need time? Wait wait wait, wait wait wait one talks too much, and yeah, we need to know which is which, which one needs to die. I'm just saying, let the people know. But that that makes no sense. Like, so I can't do anything but be under you, be around you, nothing outside of that. Yeah, I don't think that's what they meant. So what do you think they meant? Shorty? He not your little friend? At best, you an associate. He has his friends, Me myself. I

1:37 we're good, y'all. Y'all work colleagues, work associates. I don't I don't think that you might be a friend of his male friends. I don't know that's superficial, like that's on the surface. Like you y'all could be anything but friends. Yeah you can. You can name it any other thing, but you're not friends. It doesn't sound like you're saying that you can't have anybody else in your life except for me because that's all you need. I mean, I feel like that. I feel like I'm on you need. But I'm now you know you don't think that, and I'm all that in the mag that's why your neck hurt from trying to hold that big ass head up. Somebody told you my next hurt. My neck feels just fine.

2:30 My neck can handle all the weight that's put on it. Okay, but that's to me. That's what that I'm getting from that, I'm not getting You can be uh an associate, but you can't be his friend. That's that's strictly for me. You gotta keep your friend's circle small. Your mother never told you that keep your friend circle small? Yeah, not everybody is your friend. Well I know, not everybody's your friend, but so what is small? How many? How many people? I don't know, I'm not sure who's like? You know? Who do you consider close friends.

3:12 Friends are people that can come to your home. Can you know those are friends? Everybody else is an associate. If I don't allow you in my house, you're not my friend. But if that's the case, from what that that post is saying none of these girls is allowed in the house. Keep your girls out the house? What girls though? Like just regular girls? What do you mean? Who are these girls that you're telling that you can't be friends and can't be in that house? Like you saying keep your friends circle small? But like, so who's that include? Like it doesn't include people that I've known and been friends with or people I've met and become friends with. I don't know. I didn't post. Well what do you think? Because you obviously got to make a determination on what it means to you. Yeah, the little lightweights that want to be your friends.

4:10 Now, you have a best friend from childhood that is you know, a woman that's different. So what if she's including that person then? Or what if it's directed at that person? M why would it be directed at that person? Were you all involved? No? Because she feels a way like I don't know why she put the post. She could have put it because she's a jealous person and like, you can't have any female friends. I'm your only female friend. Some guys are okay with that, there fool. Some people believe that, you know, the person you're with should be your homy lover friend, everything you need and that's it. Some people rock with that, you leave us. On the other hand, you know, king flirt, I can't see, of course you can't. You being like, oh, well, this is the person and I can't have friends outside of that, Like how do how do you navigate society with that mindset? Like I'm just going to be straightforward. I can't talk to you. I'm in a relationship. We can't be friends. We can't talk. Keep moving and say we can't talk. She ain't say y'all can't talk. She said, y'all can't be friends. But when you have these conversations and then you start finding out, then you become friendly, not necessarily friends, which is going towards the friend zone. Cut it off before the friend zone, stop it

5:43 friendly, is what she's saying. You know, I need nothing more. No, that's a selfish attitude to me, Like you're gonna tell me like I can't have female friends, so a male friend, No, she said friends. She ain't say female. She ain't say male. She said friends. She probably talking about everybody. So you want me to just be about you, and you think that's gonna last. It might work in her world, I don't know. Clearly, it's not gonna work in yours. Clearly it's not gonna work in mine. You're telling me, Oh yeah, it's just it's just me and you. You don't think you're gonna grow tired of that, Like, no matter how cool y'all relationship is, you don't think that it's gonna start. Okay, now it's getting a bit much. Now I need I need something outside. Like that's like when you get on the game. You have a baby game, when you have a baby and you're talking baby talk, and that's all you're doing for the first six seven months of this baby's life, and all of a sudden, now an adult comes.

6:42 Now you want to have a regular conversation. It's hard to have that regal conversation because all you know is God got Google and you you know what I mean. Like, so now my only friend can be the baby because that's all I understand is baby talk. No, you get tired of that. Not the baby, But you know, like you want to have adult conversations, you want to have other conversations. If I'm living with you and we're just it's all about me and you, there's nothing else to talk about, Like we were done, Uh, exhausted, exhausted all our conversations because it's all about me and you. I don't have nothing to tell you because I don't talk to anybody else, so I can't tell you what this one said or what that one did. So then where do we go? What do we have these conversations about? Well, once you finished talking to me, you talk to my cat because one of them clearly talks too much, and we ain't figure out which one yet, so they always got something to say. I'm just saying you said sounds like, are you the one that's out of words? Not me? No, I'm not out of words, like I got a lot of words for you, the choice words too, because cocoa PUFs. But even even with those two conversations, eventually that gets tired, like your joke inside of talking the same talk. You know, why you look so frustrated, why you look like your blood pressure just went out? Laughing at you? Blood pressure coming up I'm trying nothing to forget.

8:20 This is hilarious to me that you said that. Okay, I'm just saying, you know, I'm giving you options. We all need options. That's two conversations and no, two conversations won't last for fifteen minutes. How about that? Fifteen minutes? Yes? Ten in the verbal five one other one? Okay, all right, So bottom line, you think she's ridiculous. You need other adult contact in your life, yes, and not only just for you before your relationship to work, because your relationship is going to fail if you don't have other things to draw on, right, If you don't have an outlet then you know, or something else to stimulate your mind or just to be able to be like you know what, I need to do something different, you know, varietes and spice of life. Then you end up starting to get into this this one Dane. Monotonous right, monotonous?

9:28 Uh? What's I can't think of the word I want to use? Mm hmm. That's that's you know why. That's because you've only been having conversations with me and my cat, so you your vocabulary. This is what happens. I mean, this is a perfect example. This is you again. So now we know which one talks too much, We know which one talks too much, and really you are talking way too much. I'm just saying, I'm proving you right. Your point right, Your point is being proven right. Yeah, one point is that sometimes you need to shut up have a different conversation with somebody else because the fuggery is coming out of your mouth. Okay, you're right. Yeah, I think I think that answers that. Oh no, but what do you feel? Oh you wanted how I feel? Do you feel like that's a true statement that you don't know?

10:39 No, I think you should have friends if that was addressed, you know, specifically towards the little chicks that may be trying to get in. Yeah, then I agree, he don't need y'all. He got he got me and my cat. We're good. But I don't think that extends to real friends, right like your true friends, who you rock with, who know your business, who you put your trust in, who you rely on. Those type of friends. I think if we're talking, you know, the little I don't even know what to call them. If we're talking, the wanna bees, the want to get ins, the if I get two seconds, something other than a friendship than a genuine, you know, friendship, those trying to get your draws. He don't need y'all that. If that's where she's throwing it, I'm right there with her. That's it.

11:46 Well, I mean, if it's if it's not broad and it is directed towards something like that, it doesn't seem as psychotic. But if it is, like like now you can't have no friends, right, that's that's controlling and right. And what's the people who what's the term I'm looking for the people who separate you from from your loved ones, the abusive people. I guess they're mentally abusing you. They cut you off from your people and then you know, make you dependent on them. If it's along those lines, yeah, too much. But you know I didn't take it like that, but clearly you did. Well, how did you take it? You taking it as I'm taking it as now, I'm taking it as she directing it towards the ones that's trying to get in where they fit in. I took it as that. I took it as she's just saying, she putting like she putting her little flag out, she puts it on her tree. You the tree I'm not the tree. She's pistol on her tree. She's marking her territory. I just want to know, because you know, cats climb trees. Oh my god. So with that, we're gonna keep living life from laughing at it. Clearly, that's the end of this episode. Guys.

13:16 We'll catch you on the next one later