May 2, 2024
S3E2 - Ring and a Prayer
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What up, guys, the sugar
latiest thinger and went back with another episode
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of Gems and Tonic. So this
season, you know, we're looking for
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all the juicy, juicy juicy topics. So we saw something on social media
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where this gentleman proposed to his girlfriend
of ten years in the car with the
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ring. No thought, you don't. We gotta tell him what happened.
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I'm sure they all saw the video. Yeah, but you can at least
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be like, all right, what, don't be biased. I'm bias.
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I'm biased. Ten years in the
car driving from wherever with a ring,
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I don't even know that he say
will you marry me? Did he even
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say will you marry me? He
started recording after that, so he said
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he started saying I said the words
now whatever, no thought, no nothing.
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In the car on the way home, she said no, packed up
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belongings, and I hope moved on. But we're gonna talk about it because
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I know your boy, Rob.
It's coming with a different point of view
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than mind. Let's go number one. Should she have said yes or no?
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I mean that was her choice.
That that's I don't think that should
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be up for debate. As far
as if she should have said yes no.
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If at that point she felt like
she didn't want to say yes,
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then well the time frame was an
issue for her. So we're gonna talk
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about the time frame, and we're
gonna talk about the way it was done.
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So the way it was done,
do you agree with the way it
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was done? Well, See,
if the time frame was an issue,
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then why was she still there in
a relationship with him. I'm cool with
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being a girlfriend and I'm gonna stay
that, you know, forever, But
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now that you proposed me out no, Well I know we've once talked about
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if after someone proposes to you,
if the answers or no, the relationship
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is done. So she might have
been just cool being the girlfriend because after
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all this time, she didn't settled
with you asked, because you took forever
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in the fucking day to get to
it, and now she don't want to
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be your wife. Well maybe she
was ready to go out the door anyway.
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That's why maybe this was the senner. She was like, here's my
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outde You can't tell me that you've
been with him for ten years. You
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waited ten years, you wanted it, After five years you wanted it.
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And then he said nah, I'm
not ready for that. And five years.
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Yeah, but you still waited another
five years because she decided, Okay,
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this is where it is. It's
not gonna be nothing else. So
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now now with your drama talking about
something, will you marry me? And
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I don't want to marry you?
Now now that you ask me, now
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I got to break up with you
because you know, after you say no,
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then a relationship is over. So
you made me in a relationship by
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asking me after ten years, don't
ask me it's over. Well, see,
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it's over because the way he was
acting, he was acting salty.
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It's like he wouldn't come back from
that. He probably give all types of
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attitudes exactly because once you propose and
I say no, the relationship is over.
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So you should have just left it
because you ain't want me to begin
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with, because you ain't no after
five years, you what's the difference?
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After ten nobody else wants your ass, So now you want me, I
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don't. I don't think it's the
fact that you know, some people are
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slower on the gideo whatver, that
some people some people just like you know,
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it's not for me, it's not
for me. Then one day they
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get it like, no, it's
an epiphan It's like, you know what,
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I can do this? I mean, yeah, when you come with
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it. You may have missed the
bus, but you still came. He
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missed the bus. And is she
wrong to pack her stuff and break out?
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People saying she's ungrateful? How is
she ungrateful? I wouldn't say she's
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ungrateful. She she wanted what she
wanted and she didn't get it. Now,
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I definitely wouldn't call it her grateful
because it's not like she said.
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Well, I mean, I guess
if she don't want to be with him.
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So do you think that if he
would have put some more effort into
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the delivery, into the proposal itself, that it may have changed her mind
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and her reaction toward it. I
mean, the way she was talking,
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it sounded like it would have,
but I don't really think it would have.
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I think I think she was looking
for the exit door anyway. I
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think that if he would have come
with some type of effort, and you
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know, I planned on this,
I worked on this, I thought about
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this, I thought about myself.
You know, I sat down and I
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looked into myself and realized that I
really want to be with you. I
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knew it took me this amount of
time to get here, et cetera,
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et cetera, et cetera, and
planned it out. She would have realized,
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yeah, but the way he came
with, like yo, I'm just
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doing this ahead, shut you up. She realized this is not the person
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for me. In that moment,
she's like, yo, you put no
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thought effort into this. You don't
give a shit about me. That ring
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was not a just shut up ring. What because the because the ring is
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nice ring. The piece of jewelry
you could put You could put a piece
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of thread on my finger and we
married. It has Yes, you can
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put a piece of So you're trying
to say she should be impressed by the
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jewelry. I'm not saying she should
be impressed. I'm saying that she had
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to at least take it in consideration. Okay, he did buy a nice
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ring. He could have got she
should at that point, after ten years
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know him and if that was the
person he was like, that was like
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he ain't never been that type of
person. They come out with the romance
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set up. In the romance,
then she could have been like, you
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know what, in the car,
guy, you could have waited until we
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got home. I mean, she
was could have got on her knee,
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she was driving, So definitely I
wouldn't have did it in the car because
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if she would have said yes and
got excited, you might have killed his
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book. That's what you're thinking about. So you're thinking about self preservation.
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You're not even thinking about making it
nice for her. You're one of those
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guys. He's one of those guys. So do something where when you got
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out the car, you know,
you walk over to her side and then
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proposed something something besides while you're driving. Yes, that was whack right,
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totally weekly weakedy, whack Okay,
Chris, but he comes the butt,
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here comes the bullshit, no bullshit. But yeah. But but I think
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that from her reaction, she already
was trying to figure out how to get
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out of the religion ten years waiting
for your ass. Yeah yeah, but
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I mean she shouldn't have made it
about the way he proposed. But look,
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I'm just I'm tired of waiting for
you. Your proposal was whack.
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It shows you put no effort,
you have no care and no concern for
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me, and I'm gone. She
should have said it all she should have
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laid it on. She was trying
to be nice, She was trying to
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spare his feelings. I do I
think she was. And then when he
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started where you going with that?
You ain't buy that? And d yeah,
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you ain't the one for me?
Bro Well, I mean she accepted
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it up until that point, except
to what the lifestyle? What lifestyle?
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The girlfriend boyfriend lifestyle? Okay,
she accepted his little don't propose, his
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little YACKI number nine, don't propose? Oh I oh, you're talking about
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her hair, the little YACKI number
nine. Is that a thing? Yaki
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number nine? I don't know.
I think it was a thing. It
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may not be these days. It
make go sound it's more special. But
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yeah, so we in a relationship. If you buy me some hair,
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you buy me some hair, don't
axalty what I'm eaven talking about? I'm
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not taking the hair? Yeah,
but how does he how does he give
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her a hair? Does she's like
this? He probably gave her the money
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to get the hair, right,
so he at least when out it got
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the ring, he could have been
like, yeah, here's some money,
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go get your ring. Better off
married, he might have been better off
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because she could have told him no
right then and there and saved him,
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saved him the embarrassment. Well,
I mean, I oh, he he
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just figured out that you know what
this is, this is the one for
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me. He knew no, like
no, it took him years. It
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took him ten years to run through
everything else, at all his other options
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to realize nobody else ain't warn him, so let me stick with the one
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that's riding with me. And now
she realized, yeah, nose, that's
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what I think. That's what she
think. That's why she said no,
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I don't know, I promise you. I think there's like you ain't got
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no option, so I'm the last
one left. She would have said that
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she didn't want to embarrass him or
embarrass herself because then people are gonna be
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like, well, why you waited
around waiting to see you know what you
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gonna do? Yeah, But she
never said anything like are you cheated on
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me? Or you was this?
She was that it was just the fact
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that he waited, because that'll make
her look dumb that she stayed in a
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relationship. Shit, she stayed in
a relationship for ten years and then decided
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I got the ring down, I'm
out, like I mission accomplished. I'm
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done. That's how you see it. Yeah, like, no, no,
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no, really, I got him
to proposed. Nah, if he
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would have proposed in a timely fashion, then maybe he would have had a
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chance. However, her time frame
passed. Now she don't want that no
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more. That's what the problem is
that, people, And how is that?
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How is that a problem? If
I have a standard and this is
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what it is and you can't meet
it, that's what it is. We
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adult. I should be able to
go my way, but if I have
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a standard, then you should be
able to meet that. Right. No,
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we're supposed to compromise. Ain't that
what you always say? You can
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meet somewhere in the middle. Ain't
that what you always say? Yeah,
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okay, give me some in the
middle in the middle. He did,
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He didn't ten years the middle.
No, it wasn't. What was it?
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Maybe seven? Maybe six? If
hers was five, I don't know
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what her limit was. How dumb
is that? Like? Oh, seven,
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seven was a round number? What
you mean? How dumb is that?
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How seven? Around up? Ten
is a round number? Five,
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ten, fifteen, twenty. Okay, So if parliament is five, If
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parliament is five, then what he
was too over right, he's too old
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two. But at ten it's like, you know what, let's revisit,
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because it's revisit. No, y'all
are ridiculous. Y'all be expecting, and
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I'm using the term general men on
a whole expect to put women on a
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shelf and come and dust them off
when they ready for them. I am
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not sitting and waiting and collecting dust
for you. I'm not doing that.
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Neither is she She sat we she
she sat and waited when she didn't get
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what she wanted. At five years, my girl started planning, okay,
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and and now she ready to yep, and she stocked her paper, waited
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for her yak number ninees and she
good to go now. But it wasn't
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good. And I waited for the
tenures, like, like, how does
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that work out? If you like? If you don't, you don't think
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at five years you should know whether
or not this is the person for you
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to spend the rest of your life
with. Five years okay, and so
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what's the problem. I didn't say, if you're not going to if you're
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not going to let the person go, everybody, everybody's the same. I
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agree, And he didn't. He
didn't. He didn't keep a gun to
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her head and say, we don't
know, we don't know, we don't
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know what it was. We don't
know. Oh, you don't know.
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But then she's in a car driving
and decide, you know what, I'm
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gonna tell you leave. If she
felt threatened, I'm pretty sure it wouldn't
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have been that situation. Here's the
thing, though, She didn't say she
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was gonna leave until he started acting
stupid in the car. What she said,
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she doesn't want to ring in the
car, and she said she was
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going. He said, so what, you're gonna leave? And she's must
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have said yes, because that's what
he went to when stopped. He went
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to that, right, Because if
you don't want to get married, then
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what are we doing? Like you
said, you said, this is what
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you wanted, Now you don't want
it. So what we're doing, there's
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nothing wrong with that to me.
So if I tell you tomorrow i'm out,
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you're good. That's what it is, is not the wrong. It's
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nothing wrong with that to me.
It's not wrong with that. That's if
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that's what you decide, then that's
what it is. Okay, So why
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are you trying to Why are you
trying to say why you Well that's what
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he did. He was like,
where you going? Stop playing where you're
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going? But why are you gonna
say that? She been planning that if
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okay, she decided nah saying it
because that was too easy, Like she
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was what, well, how how
was it supposed to be It was supposed
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to be hard, it was supposed
to be tears. No, it was
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it was supposed to be in a
conversation. Really yeah, she probably been
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talking to this man for the last
seven eight years, and then she could
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have been like, all right,
well this is this is why I don't
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want this, and this is why, like she's probably tired of talking.
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Okay, Well then you're just like
all right, well I'm going to have
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to pack myself and then she can
well, you're not gonna help me,
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like negro, you are leaving me. Why I might help you leave me.
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You're not gonna help me pack my
stuff. I'm gonna help you pack
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your stuff because I'm a different type
of person. I'm like, oh,
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yeah, what you needed me lift
something? Got you? Wait? Never
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mind, my back is aching my
belts, my boot shaken from the left
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of the ride, So you're not
helping me pack. I'm gonna watch you,
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watch me for what, But make
sure you don't hurt yourself. You
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know what I'm saying. Make sure
you got help me. If I hurt
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myself, make sure you got everything. Don't forget that. I'm taking everything
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then, so I don't forget nothing. How about that? That's fine?
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That is following me. You know
I'm a minimalist. Minimalist. Yes,
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leave me my xbox on the TV. You can have everything else. You
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straight take the food, take everything. See now, why are you taking
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food? Like what's going extra?
Don't take from the moody. Don't take
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the food, and don't take the
xbox. You can take everything else.
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I'm gonna leave you the dog.
No, that's you're not gonna do.
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You're gonna take the dog with you. You came in with him, you
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gonna leave out with him. And
that's how that's gonna go. Oh oh
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my goodness. All right. So
you agree that if one person has something
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in their head and that's not met
and they decide it's time to cut,
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then it's time to cut. I
definitely agree that. You know, like
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if if, if you don't feel
like you can handle something like that,
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then you should get ahead and move
on, like because after that point,
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if it wasn't what you wanted,
it's gonna go downhill from there, and
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then it's gonna be animosity between the
two of you more than what it is
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at that point. So why should
you get ahead and put yourself in a
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relationship, I mean in a situation
where you're going to have to you're gonna
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hate somebody, like, you know
what, this is not working. We
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should go our separate ways and then
keep it pushing, you know what.
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As an adult, you gotta be
like, all right, you're right,
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it's not working. Cool. Why
why I don't laugh? Don't laugh?
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I mean, that's that's what it
is. That is what it is like
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people grow apart, you know,
people you know, want different things in
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life. You know, I can't
say what I want today is what I
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wanting tomorrow because what I want today
is not to do what I wanted yesterday.
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I mean, things changed, Like
maybe you don't want to get married
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now, and it could have took
him ten years to figure that out,
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Like I can be a husband.
Like maybe he was soul searching, you
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know, and it took ten years
to find his soul. It happens.
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Some people take longer. Some people
be like they together forty years, like
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y'all, y'all got married. Now
look here, But but you're doing the
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same thing. You're living together,
you're doing everything that y'all would be doing.
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Well. See, that's where she
was wrong. She shouldn't have stayed
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for ten years if she felt like, I'm going to not get what I
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want after five after the fifth year, if you didn't if y'all didn't have
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a conversation and y'all didn't discuss,
okay, where are we going, and
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if it wasn't to your satisfaction and
you say, you know what, I
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can't do this for another five years. I'm gonna leave now. She should
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have did it five years ago.
To do it after ten years, like
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bruh, you waited another actual five
years like you was like, I'm going
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okay, so wait, so what's
the cutoff? What's the waiting cutoff?
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There's no waiting cut off. But
you can't you can't turn around and be
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like you waited ten years for this, that you waited ten years for this.
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That was her cutoff. She she's
that was it. That was like,
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you can't be that. That was
the shamo that broke, the destroy
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that broke was back. She was
like, he not serious? Ten years
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not? But did we know that
she would have left if he didn't propose
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when she stayed there fifteen? We
don't know. Maybe she like round numbers.
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We don't know. I mean like
she was like, I gotta leave
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on an id e or I mean, what's up a multiple of five in
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the five years? So five,
fifteen and fifteen, she would have left,
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you know it. She she put
herself in that position to me because
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she didn't leave. She didn't stand
on her business after five now after ten.
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I didn't say, not saying that
she should. She has to accept
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it, but she gave him the
inclination that it was going to be accepted
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because you waited for it. Very
insightful, very very very insightful. What
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you say if you don't get You
just said, if you don't get something
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in the timeframe that you deem satisfactory, stand on business, satisfactory, satisfactory,
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stand on business and bounce. That's
what you say. That's it.
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Ten toes, ten toes, ten
toes down, walking out the door with
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those ten toes, be out,
don't look back, don't look back,
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no compermise and no compromise, no
hard feelings, no compromise. I mean,
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that's what the conversation is going to
have to be. If you're gonna
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have the conversation and it's like,
I say, five years, this is
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what it's gonna be. All right, Look, I ain't ready after five
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years? Can you give me another
two three and a half? Maybe you
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know what I mean, Like,
you can bargain in but you gotta at
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least put it out there. Are
you bargaining in good faith? Yeah,
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to see if I'm gona get there. And if I don't get there,
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then then two three and a half
you be like, all right, what
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we're doing? You're like, uh, listen, can I get an extension
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on that? You be like no, then you standing on business. I'm
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out. So give give a guy
eight years. I didn't say you have
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to give him eight years. You're
talking numbers. If somebody's limit is five,
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you're saying you should at least be
able to stretch to seven or eight
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as a compromise. If your standard
was five. If your standard was five,
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you have to figure out what you're
willing to wait after that five Because
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you said here's five you drew a
line in the sand, sat five is
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my thing. When you got to
five, he was like, I'm not
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ready at five, but we're good. Can we wait a limp two or
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three? It's a long time,
it is, But at that point you
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can be like, I can't wait
a two or three. If you don't
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know about five, you're not gonna
know in another two or three to me,
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So I'm gonna leave. But if
you're gonna have the conversation, give
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him the time. Then at that
and when that two or three come up,
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you can't expect that it's gonna change
it. It may not work in
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your favor. He might still be
like, yeah, I'm not there yet,
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giving you two or three to get
your ship together because you know we're
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breaking up. That's what it like. That could be it. He could
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He could have been like, you
know what, I need a little get
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back time, Like I gotta figure
some things out. Way I'm gonna stay
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after this. You're gonna stay after
this, so I need to figure that
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out, you know, because he
might have been living it well, no,
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it sounded like there was. It
was living together, so it was
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probably not like it was his place
because she was she packed upus shit the
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bounce quick quick. What I mean, maybe she had somewhere else to go,
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Like I said, she might have
been already had to say. She
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might have said, after five,
all right, I'm gonna work. I'm
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gonna do my exit plan. And
so he might have messed up and gave
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her the time to get right.
Yep, pretty much. But I I
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like I said, I think that
if she, if she's gonna stand on
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he waited ten years, then she
shouldn't have waited ten years because she was
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supposed to be let She had supposed
to be going in five. So technically
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her, I mean, she could
have took the ring and everything and then
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dipped on him. She at least
she ain't even do that. Y'all gotta
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give her credit for that. Well, she took she took the yakies,
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So I mean she was she you
gave me something, if I give you
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something that really gifted. He gifted
in a ring. That because she didn't
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accept the ring, because she would
have had to give it back anyway.
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Quarter law. Yeah, I mean, I guess it's a promise everything,
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So it was a conditional so m
But regardless, like I said, I
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think she she set herself up for
that by not standing on the business like
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she was like, that's five years. You should have known, like if
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he if that was because they had
to have the conversation like I need to
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figure out where I need to be. So when he kept saying I need
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to figure it out, she should
have been like, well, I can't
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wait for you to figure it out. But she waited ten years. Now
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I figured out, I'm gonna leave. She can leave whenever she want to
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leave. She could have left it
at any time. But she can't make
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that this. Yes she can.
Yes, if she chose to state she
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could leave when she wanted to leave. That was it. That was her
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trigger, Like he not serious.
I thought we were just gonna be roommates
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with privileges for the rest of our
days, and I was okay with that.
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But now now that he dodn'et wore
out all his options, he want
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to play me and come with this
ring. I don't accept this. So
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that's what it is. That's what
it is. That's what it is.
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When when these guys are out here
talking about some I don't know and I
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can't and I'm not ready yet,
and da da da da da what stop
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it. You know, you know, you absolutely know. It's just like
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when we had the whole conversation about
dream girl. You know, what were
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the categories again, the five categories
dream girl, out of your league,
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dream girl, and I can't remember
what the lower three were, but you
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know you you admitted to that.
You was like, y'all know right away
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what it's gonna be, so you're
right away, well me not say right
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away. You know right away that
you're gonna deal with a dream girl or
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somebody at your league, and you
know if you're trying to make that person
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your wife or not. You know, you you do know you can figure
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out in less than ten years if
it's going to be the one. Now,
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he could have he could have easily
have said, I want to propose,
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you know, at this time when
I have this situated, blah blah
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blah, like giving her what it
was that he was thinking, right that
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might have worked, and then did
a better proposal, and yeah, he
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could have worked and it could have
worked, but I guess again because she's
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settled. He was like, she'd
wait for it. You just you you've
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given her nothing. You just given
her like the the thoughtless holdest, like
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last minute. It's just garbage.
It was just horrible. Like I agre,
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Definitely, you ain't got to be
the most romantic person in the world.
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But if you need help, ask
for help, call a friend,
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phone a friend, party, plan
as somebody. I mean, it is
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the internet, you could have you
could have searched. Now, is the
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internet the problem? While you're looking
at the Internet and seeing all these extravagant
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proposals, Now, was she like
looking for something bigger and better that,
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well, bigger and better than anything
would have been bigger and better than that,
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but just in general, like he
could have he could have stood outside
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the house and threw a ring in
the window. All right, So you
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agreed that was a failed major,
failed major. All right, guys,
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step your game up. If you
need some help, quite boy, Rob,
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He'll have you throw the ring in
the window. Later throwing rocks at
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the window. And then when she
gave open it, it's like, yo,
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what are you doing? Sow the
ring hit in the forehead. She'd
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be like, oh my god,
you're so funny that you said that.
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I would that damn ring back at
you if I could find it, because
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I probably think it's a rock.
Pick it up and fling it back and
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I have no aim, so wind
up somewhere in the bush and we all
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mad, and we all mad,
So don't do that, but ask for
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help. I mean, definitely,
if it was that important, and it
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was, because it definitely didn't was
that important. If that's the problem,
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son, I got this ring.
What you want to do? I mean,
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we don't know what he said.
He could have He could have literally
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said will you marry me? But
like she can't even look at him because
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she's driving horrible garbage. Okay,
we agree on that part. We agree
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on that part. Okay, we
don't agree on nothing else, probably not.
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And on that note, you could
keep living life and laughing. Have
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a good night, y
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What up, guys, the sugar
latiest thinger and went back with another episode
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of Gems and Tonic. So this
season, you know, we're looking for
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all the juicy, juicy juicy topics. So we saw something on social media
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where this gentleman proposed to his girlfriend
of ten years in the car with the
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ring. No thought, you don't. We gotta tell him what happened.
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I'm sure they all saw the video. Yeah, but you can at least
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be like, all right, what, don't be biased. I'm bias.
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I'm biased. Ten years in the
car driving from wherever with a ring,
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I don't even know that he say
will you marry me? Did he even
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say will you marry me? He
started recording after that, so he said
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he started saying I said the words
now whatever, no thought, no nothing.
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In the car on the way home, she said no, packed up
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belongings, and I hope moved on. But we're gonna talk about it because
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I know your boy, Rob.
It's coming with a different point of view
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than mind. Let's go number one. Should she have said yes or no?
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I mean that was her choice.
That that's I don't think that should
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be up for debate. As far
as if she should have said yes no.
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If at that point she felt like
she didn't want to say yes,
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then well the time frame was an
issue for her. So we're gonna talk
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about the time frame, and we're
gonna talk about the way it was done.
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So the way it was done,
do you agree with the way it
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was done? Well, See,
if the time frame was an issue,
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then why was she still there in
a relationship with him. I'm cool with
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being a girlfriend and I'm gonna stay
that, you know, forever, But
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now that you proposed me out no, Well I know we've once talked about
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if after someone proposes to you,
if the answers or no, the relationship
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is done. So she might have
been just cool being the girlfriend because after
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all this time, she didn't settled
with you asked, because you took forever
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in the fucking day to get to
it, and now she don't want to
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be your wife. Well maybe she
was ready to go out the door anyway.
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That's why maybe this was the senner. She was like, here's my
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outde You can't tell me that you've
been with him for ten years. You
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waited ten years, you wanted it, After five years you wanted it.
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And then he said nah, I'm
not ready for that. And five years.
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Yeah, but you still waited another
five years because she decided, Okay,
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this is where it is. It's
not gonna be nothing else. So
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now now with your drama talking about
something, will you marry me? And
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I don't want to marry you?
Now now that you ask me, now
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I got to break up with you
because you know, after you say no,
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then a relationship is over. So
you made me in a relationship by
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asking me after ten years, don't
ask me it's over. Well, see,
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it's over because the way he was
acting, he was acting salty.
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It's like he wouldn't come back from
that. He probably give all types of
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attitudes exactly because once you propose and
I say no, the relationship is over.
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So you should have just left it
because you ain't want me to begin
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with, because you ain't no after
five years, you what's the difference?
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After ten nobody else wants your ass, So now you want me, I
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don't. I don't think it's the
fact that you know, some people are
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slower on the gideo whatver, that
some people some people just like you know,
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it's not for me, it's not
for me. Then one day they
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get it like, no, it's
an epiphan It's like, you know what,
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I can do this? I mean, yeah, when you come with
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it. You may have missed the
bus, but you still came. He
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missed the bus. And is she
wrong to pack her stuff and break out?
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People saying she's ungrateful? How is
she ungrateful? I wouldn't say she's
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ungrateful. She she wanted what she
wanted and she didn't get it. Now,
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I definitely wouldn't call it her grateful
because it's not like she said.
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Well, I mean, I guess
if she don't want to be with him.
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So do you think that if he
would have put some more effort into
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the delivery, into the proposal itself, that it may have changed her mind
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and her reaction toward it. I
mean, the way she was talking,
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it sounded like it would have,
but I don't really think it would have.
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I think I think she was looking
for the exit door anyway. I
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think that if he would have come
with some type of effort, and you
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know, I planned on this,
I worked on this, I thought about
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this, I thought about myself.
You know, I sat down and I
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looked into myself and realized that I
really want to be with you. I
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knew it took me this amount of
time to get here, et cetera,
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et cetera, et cetera, and
planned it out. She would have realized,
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yeah, but the way he came
with, like yo, I'm just
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doing this ahead, shut you up. She realized this is not the person
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for me. In that moment,
she's like, yo, you put no
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thought effort into this. You don't
give a shit about me. That ring
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was not a just shut up ring. What because the because the ring is
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nice ring. The piece of jewelry
you could put You could put a piece
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of thread on my finger and we
married. It has Yes, you can
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put a piece of So you're trying
to say she should be impressed by the
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jewelry. I'm not saying she should
be impressed. I'm saying that she had
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to at least take it in consideration. Okay, he did buy a nice
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ring. He could have got she
should at that point, after ten years
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know him and if that was the
person he was like, that was like
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he ain't never been that type of
person. They come out with the romance
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set up. In the romance,
then she could have been like, you
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know what, in the car,
guy, you could have waited until we
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got home. I mean, she
was could have got on her knee,
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she was driving, So definitely I
wouldn't have did it in the car because
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if she would have said yes and
got excited, you might have killed his
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book. That's what you're thinking about. So you're thinking about self preservation.
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You're not even thinking about making it
nice for her. You're one of those
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guys. He's one of those guys. So do something where when you got
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out the car, you know,
you walk over to her side and then
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proposed something something besides while you're driving. Yes, that was whack right,
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totally weekly weakedy, whack Okay,
Chris, but he comes the butt,
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here comes the bullshit, no bullshit. But yeah. But but I think
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that from her reaction, she already
was trying to figure out how to get
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out of the religion ten years waiting
for your ass. Yeah yeah, but
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I mean she shouldn't have made it
about the way he proposed. But look,
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I'm just I'm tired of waiting for
you. Your proposal was whack.
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It shows you put no effort,
you have no care and no concern for
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me, and I'm gone. She
should have said it all she should have
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laid it on. She was trying
to be nice, She was trying to
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spare his feelings. I do I
think she was. And then when he
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started where you going with that?
You ain't buy that? And d yeah,
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you ain't the one for me?
Bro Well, I mean she accepted
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it up until that point, except
to what the lifestyle? What lifestyle?
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The girlfriend boyfriend lifestyle? Okay,
she accepted his little don't propose, his
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little YACKI number nine, don't propose? Oh I oh, you're talking about
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her hair, the little YACKI number
nine. Is that a thing? Yaki
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number nine? I don't know.
I think it was a thing. It
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may not be these days. It
make go sound it's more special. But
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yeah, so we in a relationship. If you buy me some hair,
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you buy me some hair, don't
axalty what I'm eaven talking about? I'm
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not taking the hair? Yeah,
but how does he how does he give
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her a hair? Does she's like
this? He probably gave her the money
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to get the hair, right,
so he at least when out it got
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the ring, he could have been
like, yeah, here's some money,
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go get your ring. Better off
married, he might have been better off
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because she could have told him no
right then and there and saved him,
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saved him the embarrassment. Well,
I mean, I oh, he he
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just figured out that you know what
this is, this is the one for
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me. He knew no, like
no, it took him years. It
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took him ten years to run through
everything else, at all his other options
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to realize nobody else ain't warn him, so let me stick with the one
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that's riding with me. And now
she realized, yeah, nose, that's
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what I think. That's what she
think. That's why she said no,
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I don't know, I promise you. I think there's like you ain't got
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no option, so I'm the last
one left. She would have said that
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she didn't want to embarrass him or
embarrass herself because then people are gonna be
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like, well, why you waited
around waiting to see you know what you
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gonna do? Yeah, But she
never said anything like are you cheated on
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me? Or you was this?
She was that it was just the fact
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that he waited, because that'll make
her look dumb that she stayed in a
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relationship. Shit, she stayed in
a relationship for ten years and then decided
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I got the ring down, I'm
out, like I mission accomplished. I'm
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done. That's how you see it. Yeah, like, no, no,
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no, really, I got him
to proposed. Nah, if he
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would have proposed in a timely fashion, then maybe he would have had a
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chance. However, her time frame
passed. Now she don't want that no
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more. That's what the problem is
that, people, And how is that?
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How is that a problem? If
I have a standard and this is
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what it is and you can't meet
it, that's what it is. We
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adult. I should be able to
go my way, but if I have
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a standard, then you should be
able to meet that. Right. No,
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we're supposed to compromise. Ain't that
what you always say? You can
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meet somewhere in the middle. Ain't
that what you always say? Yeah,
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okay, give me some in the
middle in the middle. He did,
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He didn't ten years the middle.
No, it wasn't. What was it?
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Maybe seven? Maybe six? If
hers was five, I don't know
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what her limit was. How dumb
is that? Like? Oh, seven,
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seven was a round number? What
you mean? How dumb is that?
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How seven? Around up? Ten
is a round number? Five,
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ten, fifteen, twenty. Okay, So if parliament is five, If
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parliament is five, then what he
was too over right, he's too old
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two. But at ten it's like, you know what, let's revisit,
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because it's revisit. No, y'all
are ridiculous. Y'all be expecting, and
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I'm using the term general men on
a whole expect to put women on a
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shelf and come and dust them off
when they ready for them. I am
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not sitting and waiting and collecting dust
for you. I'm not doing that.
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Neither is she She sat we she
she sat and waited when she didn't get
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what she wanted. At five years, my girl started planning, okay,
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and and now she ready to yep, and she stocked her paper, waited
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for her yak number ninees and she
good to go now. But it wasn't
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good. And I waited for the
tenures, like, like, how does
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that work out? If you like? If you don't, you don't think
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at five years you should know whether
or not this is the person for you
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to spend the rest of your life
with. Five years okay, and so
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what's the problem. I didn't say, if you're not going to if you're
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not going to let the person go, everybody, everybody's the same. I
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agree, And he didn't. He
didn't. He didn't keep a gun to
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her head and say, we don't
know, we don't know, we don't
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know what it was. We don't
know. Oh, you don't know.
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But then she's in a car driving
and decide, you know what, I'm
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gonna tell you leave. If she
felt threatened, I'm pretty sure it wouldn't
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have been that situation. Here's the
thing, though, She didn't say she
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was gonna leave until he started acting
stupid in the car. What she said,
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she doesn't want to ring in the
car, and she said she was
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going. He said, so what, you're gonna leave? And she's must
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have said yes, because that's what
he went to when stopped. He went
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to that, right, Because if
you don't want to get married, then
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what are we doing? Like you
said, you said, this is what
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you wanted, Now you don't want
it. So what we're doing, there's
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nothing wrong with that to me.
So if I tell you tomorrow i'm out,
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you're good. That's what it is, is not the wrong. It's
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nothing wrong with that to me.
It's not wrong with that. That's if
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that's what you decide, then that's
what it is. Okay, So why
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are you trying to Why are you
trying to say why you Well that's what
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he did. He was like,
where you going? Stop playing where you're
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going? But why are you gonna
say that? She been planning that if
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okay, she decided nah saying it
because that was too easy, Like she
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was what, well, how how
was it supposed to be It was supposed
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to be hard, it was supposed
to be tears. No, it was
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it was supposed to be in a
conversation. Really yeah, she probably been
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talking to this man for the last
seven eight years, and then she could
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have been like, all right,
well this is this is why I don't
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want this, and this is why, like she's probably tired of talking.
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Okay, Well then you're just like
all right, well I'm going to have
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to pack myself and then she can
well, you're not gonna help me,
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like negro, you are leaving me. Why I might help you leave me.
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You're not gonna help me pack my
stuff. I'm gonna help you pack
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your stuff because I'm a different type
of person. I'm like, oh,
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yeah, what you needed me lift
something? Got you? Wait? Never
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mind, my back is aching my
belts, my boot shaken from the left
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of the ride, So you're not
helping me pack. I'm gonna watch you,
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watch me for what, But make
sure you don't hurt yourself. You
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know what I'm saying. Make sure
you got help me. If I hurt
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myself, make sure you got everything. Don't forget that. I'm taking everything
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then, so I don't forget nothing. How about that? That's fine?
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That is following me. You know
I'm a minimalist. Minimalist. Yes,
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leave me my xbox on the TV. You can have everything else. You
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straight take the food, take everything. See now, why are you taking
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food? Like what's going extra?
Don't take from the moody. Don't take
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the food, and don't take the
xbox. You can take everything else.
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I'm gonna leave you the dog.
No, that's you're not gonna do.
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You're gonna take the dog with you. You came in with him, you
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gonna leave out with him. And
that's how that's gonna go. Oh oh
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my goodness. All right. So
you agree that if one person has something
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in their head and that's not met
and they decide it's time to cut,
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then it's time to cut. I
definitely agree that. You know, like
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if if, if you don't feel
like you can handle something like that,
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then you should get ahead and move
on, like because after that point,
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if it wasn't what you wanted,
it's gonna go downhill from there, and
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then it's gonna be animosity between the
two of you more than what it is
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at that point. So why should
you get ahead and put yourself in a
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relationship, I mean in a situation
where you're going to have to you're gonna
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hate somebody, like, you know
what, this is not working. We
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should go our separate ways and then
keep it pushing, you know what.
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As an adult, you gotta be
like, all right, you're right,
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it's not working. Cool. Why
why I don't laugh? Don't laugh?
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I mean, that's that's what it
is. That is what it is like
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people grow apart, you know,
people you know, want different things in
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life. You know, I can't
say what I want today is what I
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wanting tomorrow because what I want today
is not to do what I wanted yesterday.
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I mean, things changed, Like
maybe you don't want to get married
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now, and it could have took
him ten years to figure that out,
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Like I can be a husband.
Like maybe he was soul searching, you
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know, and it took ten years
to find his soul. It happens.
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Some people take longer. Some people
be like they together forty years, like
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y'all, y'all got married. Now
look here, But but you're doing the
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same thing. You're living together,
you're doing everything that y'all would be doing.
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Well. See, that's where she
was wrong. She shouldn't have stayed
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for ten years if she felt like, I'm going to not get what I
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want after five after the fifth year, if you didn't if y'all didn't have
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a conversation and y'all didn't discuss,
okay, where are we going, and
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if it wasn't to your satisfaction and
you say, you know what, I
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can't do this for another five years. I'm gonna leave now. She should
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have did it five years ago.
To do it after ten years, like
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bruh, you waited another actual five
years like you was like, I'm going
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okay, so wait, so what's
the cutoff? What's the waiting cutoff?
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There's no waiting cut off. But
you can't you can't turn around and be
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like you waited ten years for this, that you waited ten years for this.
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That was her cutoff. She she's
that was it. That was like,
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you can't be that. That was
the shamo that broke, the destroy
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that broke was back. She was
like, he not serious? Ten years
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not? But did we know that
she would have left if he didn't propose
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when she stayed there fifteen? We
don't know. Maybe she like round numbers.
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We don't know. I mean like
she was like, I gotta leave
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on an id e or I mean, what's up a multiple of five in
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the five years? So five,
fifteen and fifteen, she would have left,
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you know it. She she put
herself in that position to me because
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she didn't leave. She didn't stand
on her business after five now after ten.
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I didn't say, not saying that
she should. She has to accept
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it, but she gave him the
inclination that it was going to be accepted
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because you waited for it. Very
insightful, very very very insightful. What
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you say if you don't get You
just said, if you don't get something
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in the timeframe that you deem satisfactory, stand on business, satisfactory, satisfactory,
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stand on business and bounce. That's
what you say. That's it.
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Ten toes, ten toes, ten
toes down, walking out the door with
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those ten toes, be out,
don't look back, don't look back,
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no compermise and no compromise, no
hard feelings, no compromise. I mean,
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that's what the conversation is going to
have to be. If you're gonna
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have the conversation and it's like,
I say, five years, this is
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what it's gonna be. All right, Look, I ain't ready after five
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years? Can you give me another
two three and a half? Maybe you
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know what I mean, Like,
you can bargain in but you gotta at
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least put it out there. Are
you bargaining in good faith? Yeah,
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to see if I'm gona get there. And if I don't get there,
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then then two three and a half
you be like, all right, what
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we're doing? You're like, uh, listen, can I get an extension
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on that? You be like no, then you standing on business. I'm
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out. So give give a guy
eight years. I didn't say you have
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to give him eight years. You're
talking numbers. If somebody's limit is five,
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you're saying you should at least be
able to stretch to seven or eight
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as a compromise. If your standard
was five. If your standard was five,
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you have to figure out what you're
willing to wait after that five Because
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you said here's five you drew a
line in the sand, sat five is
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my thing. When you got to
five, he was like, I'm not
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ready at five, but we're good. Can we wait a limp two or
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three? It's a long time,
it is, But at that point you
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can be like, I can't wait
a two or three. If you don't
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know about five, you're not gonna
know in another two or three to me,
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So I'm gonna leave. But if
you're gonna have the conversation, give
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him the time. Then at that
and when that two or three come up,
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you can't expect that it's gonna change
it. It may not work in
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your favor. He might still be
like, yeah, I'm not there yet,
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giving you two or three to get
your ship together because you know we're
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breaking up. That's what it like. That could be it. He could
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He could have been like, you
know what, I need a little get
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back time, Like I gotta figure
some things out. Way I'm gonna stay
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after this. You're gonna stay after
this, so I need to figure that
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out, you know, because he
might have been living it well, no,
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it sounded like there was. It
was living together, so it was
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probably not like it was his place
because she was she packed upus shit the
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bounce quick quick. What I mean, maybe she had somewhere else to go,
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Like I said, she might have
been already had to say. She
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might have said, after five,
all right, I'm gonna work. I'm
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gonna do my exit plan. And
so he might have messed up and gave
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her the time to get right.
Yep, pretty much. But I I
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like I said, I think that
if she, if she's gonna stand on
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he waited ten years, then she
shouldn't have waited ten years because she was
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supposed to be let She had supposed
to be going in five. So technically
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her, I mean, she could
have took the ring and everything and then
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dipped on him. She at least
she ain't even do that. Y'all gotta
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give her credit for that. Well, she took she took the yakies,
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So I mean she was she you
gave me something, if I give you
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something that really gifted. He gifted
in a ring. That because she didn't
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accept the ring, because she would
have had to give it back anyway.
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Quarter law. Yeah, I mean, I guess it's a promise everything,
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So it was a conditional so m
But regardless, like I said, I
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think she she set herself up for
that by not standing on the business like
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she was like, that's five years. You should have known, like if
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he if that was because they had
to have the conversation like I need to
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figure out where I need to be. So when he kept saying I need
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to figure it out, she should
have been like, well, I can't
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wait for you to figure it out. But she waited ten years. Now
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I figured out, I'm gonna leave. She can leave whenever she want to
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leave. She could have left it
at any time. But she can't make
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that this. Yes she can.
Yes, if she chose to state she
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could leave when she wanted to leave. That was it. That was her
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trigger, Like he not serious.
I thought we were just gonna be roommates
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with privileges for the rest of our
days, and I was okay with that.
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But now now that he dodn'et wore
out all his options, he want
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to play me and come with this
ring. I don't accept this. So
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that's what it is. That's what
it is. That's what it is.
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When when these guys are out here
talking about some I don't know and I
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can't and I'm not ready yet,
and da da da da da what stop
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it. You know, you know, you absolutely know. It's just like
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when we had the whole conversation about
dream girl. You know, what were
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the categories again, the five categories
dream girl, out of your league,
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dream girl, and I can't remember
what the lower three were, but you
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know you you admitted to that.
You was like, y'all know right away
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what it's gonna be, so you're
right away, well me not say right
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away. You know right away that
you're gonna deal with a dream girl or
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somebody at your league, and you
know if you're trying to make that person
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your wife or not. You know, you you do know you can figure
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out in less than ten years if
it's going to be the one. Now,
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he could have he could have easily
have said, I want to propose,
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you know, at this time when
I have this situated, blah blah
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blah, like giving her what it
was that he was thinking, right that
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might have worked, and then did
a better proposal, and yeah, he
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could have worked and it could have
worked, but I guess again because she's
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settled. He was like, she'd
wait for it. You just you you've
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given her nothing. You just given
her like the the thoughtless holdest, like
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last minute. It's just garbage.
It was just horrible. Like I agre,
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Definitely, you ain't got to be
the most romantic person in the world.
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But if you need help, ask
for help, call a friend,
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phone a friend, party, plan
as somebody. I mean, it is
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the internet, you could have you
could have searched. Now, is the
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internet the problem? While you're looking
at the Internet and seeing all these extravagant
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proposals, Now, was she like
looking for something bigger and better that,
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well, bigger and better than anything
would have been bigger and better than that,
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but just in general, like he
could have he could have stood outside
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the house and threw a ring in
the window. All right, So you
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agreed that was a failed major,
failed major. All right, guys,
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step your game up. If you
need some help, quite boy, Rob,
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He'll have you throw the ring in
the window. Later throwing rocks at
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the window. And then when she
gave open it, it's like, yo,
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what are you doing? Sow the
ring hit in the forehead. She'd
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be like, oh my god,
you're so funny that you said that.
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I would that damn ring back at
you if I could find it, because
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I probably think it's a rock.
Pick it up and fling it back and
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I have no aim, so wind
up somewhere in the bush and we all
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mad, and we all mad,
So don't do that, but ask for
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help. I mean, definitely,
if it was that important, and it
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was, because it definitely didn't was
that important. If that's the problem,
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son, I got this ring.
What you want to do? I mean,
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we don't know what he said.
He could have He could have literally
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said will you marry me? But
like she can't even look at him because
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she's driving horrible garbage. Okay,
we agree on that part. We agree
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on that part. Okay, we
don't agree on nothing else, probably not.
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And on that note, you could
keep living life and laughing. Have
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a good night, y
